Feb 23
Review of last week…
As I have mentioned, I took a bit of a hiatus because I have been having periods of time where I am experiencing shooting pains in my wrists. This reason, amoung others, was part of the reason I decided that for the first time in 18 months of working for my current employer, I would actually USE some of my allotted vacation time. (the other reasons being that my kids were off for the week and RGG and his kids were off for the week, and I thought it would be good for him and I and all of us to spend time together)…
So… yeah, not much writing and my wrists are feeling so much better.
I think its the MOUSE that does it (I don’t have a mouse for my MacBook and even the amount of typing I did at home I was not able to get the same pain results there)…
But whatever, I’m repaired for now…
So… last week…
RGG and his girls stayed over with me and my kids Friday and Saturday nights… and for the most part they were good together (laugh). I think that we need to be able to get them all out of the house once in a while — separate them sometimes or just give them more space to do their own things. I found it very difficult, and I know that the kids did too, because there is only a small amount of space in my home and we were all crammed into the space for 48 hours.
On Sunday RGG’s parents invited all of us over for supper… including myself and my children (who met RGG’s family for the first time). GirlChild was shy, BoyChild was in heaven because RGG’s mother made his favourite meal (roast beef and yorkshire puddings), and thankfully they were very well behaved. We returned to my place one child short (RGG’s youngest stayed with her grandparents after having a temper tantrum)…
That’s when STALKER decided to come back into my life unbidden. Freaked me the hell out because I had been SUPER careful about giving my number out to ANYONE who might be associated with him or who I thought would give it to him if he asked. The only person he might have gotten it from might be my landlord, because they were coworkers. But either way he thought that I so desperately NEEDED back a box full of STUFF that he creepily left things on my back step — and technically the back step is NOT my property (because there are people living upstairs who also use the stairs) so there is nothing I can do about it.
What was he SO desperate to give me back?:
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one small plate from a set of corelle dishes that I do not own
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one small round no name disposable plastic container with a lid that doesn’t quite fit, that I didn’t miss or didn’t even give him
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2 books on Paganism
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2 cds, 1 that wasn’t even mine
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his old fountain pen that he didn’t want
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inks for his old pen — red, leaking
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a blank book that he bought for me (apparently).
Did I need any of these things? NO
Did I want any of these things? NO
Did I even miss the 3 things that were actually MINE? NOT at all…
So, basically this was another gesture to get my attention. An UNWANTED gesture, because I have made it clear through both my actions of cutting things off and my words in both email AND over the phone the last time I deigned to talk to him, that I do not wish to try to be his friend any longer. The games (which, no matter what he thinks, are “lies” so so much for his statement that he “rarely” lies… he’s been doing that to get attention and he got a different type of attention than he wanted) have closed that door — threats to tattle to theEx, falsified texts he says he’s getting, fake comments on my blog, nasty email bombs — and I no longer wish that kind of person into my life.
I have also called the police to let them know that I have asked him to leave me alone, and have gone so far as to change my phone number and NOT give it to him, and yet I continue to get unwanted attention from him. I will continue to monitor and keep them updated if he continues to call, text, and drop things off…
He followed up the creeping around at my residence by sending a text (which had the effect of the feeling of “you can try to block me out but I will continue to find you no matter what you want” message being sent) and then making an attempt to call me.
Colour me not amused by this.
Monday night RGG and his older daughter left to stay at his parents home for part of the week… although it was so awfully QUIET alone there with the kids, I think that everyone (except me, because I actually MISSED having RGG with me) slept better those nights (Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday)…
Tuesday and Wednesday I got errands done around the city with the kids, I made attempts to get to the gym those days, but I couldn’t get the kids into the care center (busy week) and I was really reluctant to ask RGG to help out (even if he said he would, because I need to stand completely on my own) because he was always so busy with his errands.
Tues and Wed nights RGG came over from his parents after his daughters were in bed… (laugh)… ooh, old times, eh? And we watched movies and hung out together before he had to go back home. No wonder the poor boy ended up sick before the end of the week…
Thursday night RGG and the girls came over for another night. I had to go buy new air matresses to put the girls on because the kids had all been jumping on the ones I had bought back in January, and destroyed them (I now have 4 airmatresses that have holes in them… sigh). It was another night of RGG’s youngest throwing fits because she didn’t want to sleep in one room or ther other (or at all, but given the amount of fits she throws I doubt it was anything more than to see how far her father would bend to make her happy, makes me glad that I finally nipped GirlChild doing that right in the BUD!) and the older 2 talking all night…
Friday night RGG and his girls left before theEx came to pick up the kids and their stuff to go back to our house for the last time (but they don’t know that yet either). I cleaned up around the apartment a bit, went and got a coffee, and went out with G and her mother to scrapbooking… And RGG and his girls came back to stay overnight with me (but the girls were asleep before I returned from my scrapping)…
It was a hard night. Seriously hard. With theEx and the Stalker and hormones and just feeling a bit uneasy with RGG, I wasn’t able to sleep all that well…
Which made Saturday a harder day than it should have been.
I should have let RGG go home that day, but I was feeling so unsafe in my place that I actually broke down and asked him to stay with me for another night. And so we took his daughters over to his parents’ house for the afternoon, went grocery shopping and to his hair appointment. Which worked out well… because his hairdresser is a friend of his and she actually volunteered to take his girls for that night so that RGG and I could have a few hours together without kids — which he took her up on.
Unfortunately he was also coming down with a cold or something, so we went to a movie and back to my place, but no fun was to be had that night (or the next morning) despite the fact that we had finally had complete privacy. At least I hope it was because he wasn’t feeling well and not because he’s getting bored with me. I guess time will tell with that…
Sunday he dashed off as early as possible to retrieve his kids from his friends’ house and then over to his parents… and I prepared to go out with G to have some pictures taken of myself.
I then went over to his parents’ house for supper, so we got some time to just sit and relax and cuddle and talk… and I was able to see things a bit more clearly.
Then I went home, locked and bolted my door, and pretty much collapsed.
And I know that I won’t hear from RGG except the ocassional text message for (at minimum) the next week, maybe 2 or 3 weeks. And I’m sad, but I understand and I’m going to try to get stronger over this time…
THIS WEEK
So… as far as this week goes, the plans are just to try and get as much completed as possible — cleaning and decluttering and moving things around.
I have dishes to do because I was just too tired to deal with them last night.
I have at MINIMUM 3 loads of laundry
The bathroom needs to be cleanned again
The living room needs to be rearranged — my computer is going to be put into my room, which means I have to find a corner desk unit so I can put things in my room. The Craft stuff is, for the most part, going back into my room until I can figure out what to do with some of it. The craft shelving is being moved to the other wall, and I think I might move the other table out so that I can maybe use it at a later date. This is all in preparation for getting back the property that theEx has agreed I can have back (leather couch and loveseat, tables and lamp) so I can have real seating in the living room (finally)…
I have to go to the gym and restart with the routine, and work out with the wii fit the days I am not going to the gym.
I have to take some clothes from RGG to the Salvation Army or some other charitable company. Unfortunately he wants a tax receipt for this, so it might be hard for me to figure out where to take things (because all the places I have taken kids used clothes have NEVER given me a charity receipt).
Basically keep myself occupied and not think too much about missing RGG. I know that in time not hearing from him will be easier…
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