A weekend “off”
March9
So… like I wrote previously, I was planning on making changes to the set up of my apartment this weekend.
And that is just what RGG and I did yesterday.
This weekend was GREAT (even despite 4 screaming kids most of the time)…
It all started… last week (laugh)
(cue wavey lines and flash back type effects here)
Last week I was starting to feel a bit weirded out by the fact that RGG has been having telecommunications issues — basically, for about 1 month I was unable to chat with him on IM and he was not able to call me (and given my cell plan, calling him was getting expensive) and I was starting to wonder if I had just done something wrong.
And then last Wednesday they fixed his phone lines and he actually called me, after 1 month … And the conversation went something like this:
<RINGING CELL — I really need to have a special ring for RGG>
me: “hello?”
RGG: “hi babe!”
me: “what’s wrong?”
RGG: “Nothing, I just missed you. Can’t I call because I missed you?”
me: “oh, (flustered), of course, but you usually don’t call me, I thought something was wrong!”
RGG: (laughing) “no, its just you haven’t come out this week… I missed you and my phone works so I can call again!”
When I told my friend S about the conversation he accused me of being a bit passive-agressive (laugh), which is not my intention at all… I was simply confused (and not sure if he was calling me on his cell, which is long distance charge for him) and if there was something wrong… I never meant it as a “you never call me” type of guilt thing, but an “OMG, did something happen to one of the kids” type reaction…
But its all good…
Since Wednesday we have re-established the phone calls, and we have fixed the MSN issue (for some reason his MSN account had blocked SEVERAL of his friends while he was offline for a month)… and things are good.
Friday I took half the day off, having to go to the bank and the lawyer and sign things and get groceries and stuff… and although I was 45 minutes EARLY getting home (I normally get home from work at 5:45pm, this time I was there around 5:00pm) theEx was STILL sitting there in his black SUV waiting when I arrived home!!!
Seriously, how does he DO that every time he drops the kids off???
The first thing that the kids said to me when they bounded out of the SUV was “can we invite them (meaning RGG and his girls) for supper??” And I told them that I had already invited them all over and that we were going to have Chinese food for supper…
I know theEx was impressed by this all… but he can hold his tongue. After all he’s not exactly squeeky clean, he:
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whines constantly about paying support and having to clothe his children, but can run off to the carribean for a week long vacation
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didn’t tell either MYSELF or the kids WHERE he was going when he left the country
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won’t tell me where he is moving this coming weekend (so how can I drop the kids off or pick them up, eh??)
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is apparently taking another vacation the end of March/beginning of April
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is denying he’s dating a woman who apparently isn’t terribly fond of children, although she has 2 puppies she can’t control
What. Ever.
I know that in a few months I will be divorced from him. And I’m good with that.
So… we ordered Chinese, RGG and his girls came over… we ate and put the kids to bed. And surprisingly there were no fights to get them to sleep.
The weekend was good, other than not being able to breathe at all… Saturday RGG and I and my kids (his girls went to their grandmother’s for the afternoon) did a bunch of errands before we all came back to my place for pizza (RGG claims to be a “pizziologist” since he was highly involved in Domino’s Pizza for most of his adult life) which we managed to not burn too much (my oven is hooped!!)… and then taking ALL FOUR kids to a live hockey event…
While at the hockey game my asthma started really bothering me, and by the time we were ready to leave it was to the point that RGG and my kids were “concerned” about me and the difficulties I was having breathing and talking.
We came back to my place (RGG with only one girl in tow, since the youngest decided she’d rather go to grandma’s) and RGG did most of the work getting the kids into bed and settled, set up my new computer desk in my bedroom, and helped me get settled.
My breathing calmed down the constriction in my chest eased, and I (unfortunately) passed out cold on RGG while we were watching tv and relaxing. So we went to bed and both passed out cold until about 8am when the 3 kids got up.
Sunday I was feeling a lot better, so RGG and I got up, got moving (grin) and we got things moved around in my house. The kids played in the bedrooms while RGG organized my house for me (what a great boyfriend I have):
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he installed blinds in the kitchen window
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moved the book shelf and craft shelves to my room
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moved the PC tower to the computer desk in my room
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reorganized my closets
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moved my entertainment system and rewired it
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mapped out where we’d put everything when I get my furniture this coming week
BEFORE BEDROOM
AFTER BEDROOM
Now my bedroom is really FULL of things… (the only thing I don;t have in my room is a tv, which I have never had in my room and which I have never really NEEDED in my bedroom)… and its a bit crowded… and my living room is absolutely BARREN!!!
Living room BEFORE
Living room AFTER
Pam’s Life lessons:
- My daughter will mimic the behaviour that annoys me most, if given a chance
- my son will do things to be passive agressive and get negative attention
- Girls love to scream
- My son loves hockey, who knew? The girls love ice cream.
- I have the best boyfriend in the world
- Sometimes having someone point out how rediculous it is that you have so much stuff you don’t use
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I didn’t accuse you, I was trying to tease you because it was funny that you got unsettled.
Hmph.
And theEx can suck hobos, he doesn’t get to approve your life.