Apr 19
Okay… so I haven’t been blogging a lot lately. There are a few reasons for this — firstly, the things that have been going in my life are not necessarily things that I want to discuss publicly right now; secondly, I have been busy at home and work and so when I get to write I don’t always get time to post things; and three (and most importantly) I can’t seem to post from work due to issues with WordPress and my work computer… so often I write and write and then get home, and start cleaning the house and… well… FORGET to actually post the entries that I have “in the can”…
Yeah. I admit I suck at this lately.
But I am writing… just not POSTING things.
And I’m sitting at work, right now, watching a spider freak out as it tries to spelunk down the wall and ends up twisting and turning around on its silken thread… oh the things that amuse me. And… no… I’m NOT afraid of spiders (or snakes, or mice, or lizards, or worms… )…
Lately a lot of my mental energy has been taken up with just trying to keep myself going and hoping and believing that everything is going to work out.
The last few months have really been just a string of dealing with one personal life crisis after another after another… a personal roller coster that I can’t seem to get off and which has been affecting my sleep and dreams, eating, exercising, and all my hobbies…
But ANOTHER one is dealt with and over with… and now I am left wondering what ELSE could possibly happen?
Other than TheEx being a total wanker douchebag (ooh, shock) and refusing to allow ME to gain my financial freedom from this fucking marriage… that I left almost TWO YEARS AGO!!!
Yes, I am indeed STILL waiting for not only theEx to get off his fat ass and get a job, which will allow him to get a loan, which will THEN allow him to get my name off things, which will FINALLY allow me to get a divorce from him… but I am forced to wait for my LAWYER to give me advice on how I can PROTECT or MINIMIZE the damage that theEx can (and will) do to my credit UNTIL such a time as he willingly gets MY name off debts that we ALL (him, his counsel, me and MY counsel) agreed are 100% HIS…
My bank needs me to reduce his ability to withdraw from a “joint” line of credit that should no longer BE a JOINT account. Which means I have to prove that I have not only the RIGHT to do this, but that we agree to this.
I do NOT want him to continue to have free access to the accounts while my name is on them.
Still waiting (10:30am) for my lawyer to get back to me.
I want an amendment to the separation agreement stating that either theEx closes these accounts or they are capped or tagged as “self closing”… INCLUDING the VISA. If I have to give him “reasonable” time to get my name off the accounts (because 2 years wasn’t ENOUGH (well… he’d have had to paid them off to do it, and he’s always running in the red) but I do not have to continue to allow him to USE the accounts as long as they have my name on them.
I hope I have a legal leg to stand on.
But I don’t need MORE legal bills, either.
So on one hand I NEED my lawyer to help me protect my interests and credit rating from my financially irresponsible EX (so he can finally BECOME theEx Husband for REAL), but on the other hand the fact that I have been forced to talk to him means that I am increasing my debt.
GAH!!!
I really REALLY hate it that every single solitary part of this divorce — every part of me getting my INDEPENDENCE from theEx — has meant that i have been forced to wait for theEx’s timing on things.
I had to wait for him to be ready for me to leave — but then I just went and did it because he was NEVER going to “allow” it.
I was being forced to wait for him to get his finances in order so he could “review” my request for support — which forced me to go the legal route
I had to wait and wait and wait for theEx to get counsel and get together with her. And then wait for them to find a time to deal with the issues.
I have had to wait for him to “decide” it was time to sell the house. And then I had to wait for him to try and sell it himself. And then, when I finally FORCED him to get a realtor, there was a LOT of waiting for it to sell…
And now I have to wait for him to get my name off the “joint” accounts!!? Seriously? This is part of the divorce process. I told him in SEPTEMBER OF 2006 that I wanted a divorce. He KNEW he had to take my name off accounts. He knew that in July 2007 when “we” refinanced the debts… but he refused then. And now he’s giving me a song and dance about why he can’t NOW (his lack of job –> lack of APPLYING for jobs –> fear of having to increase support payments)…
I NEED to be protected from this man… NOW…
Where is my lawyer???
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