Aug 26
Today in the life of me…
I hate days like this, where i feel like I am under water, dreaming and waiting for my real life to BEGIN. In so many ways it doesn’t feel like my life has started, or more specifically, that I am on hold in my life and just waiting for the ability to move forward.
Two weeks ago my LawyerBird finally got back to me regarding his bill. I have to mention, here, that he was SUPPOSED to forward me a copy of said bill at the end of MAY… and today is the ending of August, 3 months PAST the time he promised to get it to me. Added to that the fact that he was supposed to get it to me LAST WEEK… and yet, here I am halfway through THIS current week, and no invoice/bill from my lawyer.
Let’s discuss the fact that he didn’t do the divorce paperwork that we had agreed upon in our 4-way meeting in JANUARY like he said he would, multiple times (I’m still annoyed about that):
And now I know that it wasn’t all in my head: theEx emailed me today to ask if I had seen paperwork from my LawyerBird yet, since HE was the one who was supposed to be doing this to finalize the divorce (I wonder if theEx has a girlfriend he is chomping at the bit to marry?? Oh well…) and I had to admit that once more my legal representative, the man who I had to entrust my best interests (HAHAHA) in this matter had dropped the ball…
Gah!
So… to recap, my lawyer, along with my ex husband and HIS lawyer, and I had agreed that as soon as the conditions were met to process the divorce papers (which was to say, the house was sold and the debts were divided between us and my name was removed off of “joint” accounts I had no access to any longer) were to be done up by MY LawyerBird and everyone would sign off.
Seriously, theEx handed over the required paperwork at the end of June, as requested! My lawyer, instead of working on the “2 hours of work” that he promised was all it would take to get this matter finalized, has done NOTHING on my behalf since he last talked to me…
IN MAY!
While theEx and I had been expecting to be contacted (as promised) for signatures to get this done, my lawyer has been doing NOTHING… In fact, he stated to me that *I* would be in a good position to petition for this, as if he hadn’t already agreed to do the paperwork (and charge me for his assistant’s time)…
Why?
Because he had other matters to deal with (code: your case isn’t important enough to us for me to know what it is I promised to do for you) and he just didn’t do it.
And now he’s not responding to me… and not forwarding me things he promised to forward…
Fucking man.
I have had enough. I estimate I owe the law office approximately $10,000.00 (and that’s not counting the estimated $1000 he spouted out about doing up the divorce paperwork!!) — but of course that’s my ASSUMPTION since I haven’t been able to get a detailed billing statement — and I have repeatedly told him I do not want to artificially inflate my bill by contacting him for various and sundry questions. This was agreed upon, as was the “I will send you a detailed billing statement”…
So I emailed him… and the lawyer I ACTUALLY consulted (who I assume is above him, since he was the one who decided to hand my case off to the current yahoo because I didn’t have enough saved up when I left theEx to hire the more EXPENSIVE man (and therefore got shafted all the way through this process and had to give up support and rights left/right and centre!!!)) and stated I wanted him to start processing the divorce, as agreed…
I doubt that I will hear from him for another 2 weeks… my case isn’t that important to him…
Hindsight is truly 20/20… I should have waited until I could hire the more experienced lawyer. I should have switched lawyers when this guy first went AWOL on me…
But now its so CLOSE to the end that I just want it over… nothing more, nothing less, just OVER.
I want to go on with my life… I want to have that small piece of CLOSURE in my hand…
Tags: divorce, lawyers, my life, relationships, TheEx
It’s close. I can smell it. I’m sorry it’s all so frustrating, though.
Good luck!! What an incredibly frustrating situation. I can relate to feeling as if you’re sitting around waiting for your life to begin, but how ridiculously difficult it is when you have to wait and rely on someone else to get your life started. Hopefully, you hear from the more expensive lawyer in less than two weeks and you can put the whole situation behind you soon!!