Frozen Nowhere

During my lunch break (where I sit at my desk and gulp down whatever it is that I have brought to eat) I was reading an article on CNN regarding relationships and particularily the conundrum that comes from suddenly realizing that you are settling for a relationship that is financially stable instead of a love match. If you are at all curious about the article you can read it here.
 
In the article the writer (a female) writes honestly about how she stayed “too long” in a relationship in which she was financially supported by a man that she didn’t think that was “Mr Right”, and how hard it was for her to come to the

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I am feeling much less… annoyed at my lawyer and STBX. I mean, the divorce will be dragged on as long as the legal system can possibly do it, and I accept that. I am not looking to remarry anytime soon, if ever (although once I am divorced, who knows how I will feel about it? There are definately aspects of marriage that are valuable and right, even if my marriage was not loving, supportive, or cooperative in the least. I realize, now, that there is a value to a sustained, legally recognized family unit… but the divorce process is a BITCH and I will be more cautious about getting married because getting divorced is insanely difficult)… but I…

I left my husband almost 10 months ago… in that time my children and I have been crammed into a small house with my parents. I left because I didn’t feel I could be true to myself as long as I stayed with him. It sounds so small and pitiful a reason to quit a marriage… but there was WAY more to it than just being tired of marriage, and being tired of being with him. I won’t go into it here, because that is the past and this blog is about creating a future. Let’s just say that we had been living in limbo, and since he was unwilling to give up HIS house I had to leave. And…